Soft Snow, Warm Hearts: Christmas Magic for Your Inner Child

As the holiday season drifts toward us with twinkling lights, the scent of pine, and the soft

hush of winter evenings, I’m reminded of the tender truth that lives inside each of us: there is

still a little child within — hoping, longing, and deserving to feel loved.

“To love ourselves, we must first learn to love the little person inside all of us. The little boy

or girl that didn’t get loved the way they should, that didn’t feel safe on the dark nights, and

lived in fear that they would never be good enough. We must hold that little person close to

us, pull them on our laps and whisper in their ears, ‘Everything will be ok, for I am here now,

and I will never leave.’ And when we do that, we will become the love for ourselves we

never had.” — Inspired by Harper Lee

During this season of sparkling lights and cozy fires, I often think of A Christmas Carol by

Charles Dickens — a story that reminds us how the past can shape our present, and how

healing can restore joy we thought we’d lost.

Ebenezer Scrooge, once cold-hearted and closed-off, was guided by the Ghosts of Christmas

Past, Present, and Future. Through their gentle lessons, Scrooge was shown the lonely little

boy he once was, the joyful moments he had forgotten, and the consequences of a life lived

without connection. And in seeing himself clearly — he softened. He opened. He

transformed.

Just like Scrooge, many of us enter the holiday season carrying silent memories. Some joyful,

some painful, some that tug at us without warning.

Have you ever wondered why certain holidays feel heavy? Why a celebration feels

overwhelming instead of joyful? Why you sometimes long for quiet instead of cheer?

You may not have ghosts visiting you in the night, but your inner world often brings forward

emotions you didn’t realize were still there — a moment of sadness, a sudden frustration, a

familiar ache. These feelings aren’t flaws. They are gentle reminders from the little one inside

you, inviting your care and attention.

Sometimes we behave in ways that surprise us — we react quickly, speak sharply, or retreat

into silence. And afterwards, regret washes over us. This is simply part of being human, part

of carrying a story that is still unfolding.

The holidays offer a perfect moment to pause, to look inward with kindness, and to ask,

“What truly matters to me here?” With gentle awareness, old worries, hidden sadness, and

past hurts can be acknowledged — and in that acknowledgment, a quiet sense of peace and

strength can grow. Like the soft glow of Christmas lights on a snowy evening, these moments

can illuminate the love, wisdom, and resilience that have always been with us.

I have always tried to be the best parent I could be. And like so many of us, I did my best

with the knowledge, tools, and experience I had at the time. It didn’t always turn out perfectly

— how could it? We are all learning as we go.

This Christmas, I hope parents and children everywhere find space for forgiveness,

tenderness, and peace within themselves. May the gentle light of the season — from

flickering candles to the shimmer of ornaments — remind us that family, above all, is built on

love, understanding, and trying again.

As you prepare for the festive season ahead, I wish you joy — a gentle joy that warms your

heart like a cozy fire, and brings you home to yourself. I hope you make time for the things

that truly make you happy: soft lights, warm moments, quiet mornings, shared laughter, and

everything your inner child has always longed for.

Sending you much, much love, and a Christmas filled with hope, healing, and gentle magic.

Lucy Bear

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